Are You Giving TOO Much in Relationships?

Are You Giving TOO Much in Relationships?

6 minutes

Stop Feeling Resentment Today!

Do you often feel resentment bubbling inside, ready to explode whenever your basic values of respect are ignored? Read on to find out why giving too much in relationships is having the exact opposite effect of what you desire!

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The Downside of Over-Giving

Many of us believe that by constantly giving, we are fostering love and connection. However, this often pushes away the love we crave and deserve. Let’s explore how to shift this dynamic.

Understanding Your Energy

Bringing conscious awareness to the energy we operate in is crucial. Here’s how masculine and feminine energies manifest in relationships:

Masculine Energy Traits

  • Assertiveness: Confidently stating opinions and taking charge.
  • Ambition: Striving for success and achieving goals.
  • Independence: Making decisions and taking responsibility.
  • Courage: Facing challenges and taking risks.
  • Logical Thinking: Analysing problems and making rational decisions.
  • Physical Strength: Exerting force and endurance.
  • Competitive Spirit: The drive to excel.
  • Self-Reliance: Relying on oneself for needs.
  • Rationality: Staying calm in emotionally charged situations.
  • Leadership: Inspiring and guiding others.

Feminine Energy Traits

  • Empathy: Understanding and relating to others’ emotions.
  • Nurturing: Caring for and supporting others.
  • Intuition: Sensing and understanding beyond logic.
  • Emotional Intelligence: Managing one’s own and others’ emotions.
  • Creativity: Thinking outside the box.
  • Sensitivity: Being attuned to subtle changes.
  • Collaboration: Working with others towards common goals.
  • Adaptability: Adjusting to changing circumstances.
  • Compassion: Showing kindness and understanding.
  • Openness: Embracing new ideas and perspectives.
  • Receptivity: Receiving love without the need to reciprocate immediately.
  • Vulnerability: Expressing feelings honestly.
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The Balance Between Energies

Often, due to past experiences or societal pressures, we find ourselves stuck in masculine energy, focused on doing and giving. This can lead to feelings of heaviness, resentment, and emotional imbalance. I know as a single mum for years that my default mode was ‘MASCULINE,’ simply due to the all the responsibility being on my shoulders, unable to ever sink into my natural feminine energy.

Reflect on Your Energy Usage

Consider where you spend most of your energy. Are you constantly in “doing” mode? Is this truly making things easier, or is it leading to feelings of anger, loneliness, and being unloved?

The Seesaw Effect

Think of your relationships as a seesaw. Balance is achieved when both people contribute and support each other. To feel more cared for, loved and supported, both parties need to adjust their energies!

  • Demand More: Asking for what you need and deserve may seem heavy and demanding, but having expectations of others, gives you the weight you need to bring the Seesaw down. Others can rise to support you, letting you relax safely and feel grounded.
  • Encourage Their Efforts: Allowing your partner to do something for you, boosts their confidence and self-worth, in turn, lightening their load and raising them up!

When both partners can move fluidly between masculine and feminine energies, the relationship feels balanced, enjoyable and fun. No longer leaving one stuck in the air or abandoning completely, letting you fall to the ground with a crash!

Practical Steps to Rebalance

Next time you feel resistance and bubbling resentment, ask yourself:

“What energy am I operating in right now?”

Adjust your energy and observe how the other person responds. This conscious shift can transform your relationship dynamics. It’s essential for us to take full responsibility for how our energy effects the relationship.

Are you ready to change your life?

Are you tired of doing all the ‘work’ alone? You’re never too old to have your hand held whilst you edit, shift and emerge.

If you resonate with this and want the guidance and tools to change your life & relationships for good, I invite you to explore working with me 1:1.

Live your best life WITHOUT compromise, on your terms.

Hear how Daisy changed her life…

Take a moment to hear how working with me has truly been life changing for Daisy…

If you decide that you want to invest in yourself, Sam is 100% the person to go to. Working with her regularly has changed my life, literally. In a short space of time she has taught me the skills I need to be able to reflect effectivelytake control of situations, build my confidence, plan and reach goals and many techniques to sooth, cope and reach my full potential. I would recommend her to anybody- no matter what you want to work on or develop. She teaches you to question your thinking and understand how your body and emotions are connected. After sessions with her you will feel like a different person and approach all aspects of your life differently. I am definitely a more positive person now and I have the skills to continue to grow. Sam is calm, soothing, understanding, non-judgmental, explains things very clearly, and challenges you in all the right ways. Her listening skills are unbelievable and the knowledge she has about wellbeing is admirable. I cannot recommend her enough. If you’re someone who is thinking about investing in yourself, just do it! Your life could be completely changed like mine! Thank you Sam, you’re amazing!’ ~Daisy, England

Reflection Summary: Key Moments

Take a moment to reflect on these key insights:

  • Resentment as a Signal: Recognise resentment as a sign that you may be giving too much and neglecting your own needs.
  • Energy Awareness: Understand the importance of balancing masculine and feminine energies in your relationships.
  • Empowerment through Vulnerability: Embrace vulnerability and receptivity to unlock deeper connections and love.
  • The Seesaw of Balance: Visualise your relationships as a seesaw, where balance is achieved through mutual support and clear communication.

Let these reflections guide you towards healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Remember, you deserve to receive as much as you give.

With love,

Sam x

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